What would you like to achieve?
Build your self-esteem
The degree to which you accept yourself affects your relationship with yourself and others. Learn to embrace yourself and feel confident about who you are.
Overcome negative thoughts
Being gay sometimes comes with shame, anxiety and loneliness. Learn to recognize and break through negative thoughts about masculinity and homosexuality.
Find your purpose
A clear purpose gives direction to your life. Whether it is your career or personal life. Investigate your values and qualities and take control of your life and/or career.
Whether you are in your 20s or 50s, coming out is usually a major and life-changing event. Learn to stay true to yourself, regardless of other people's expectations.
Deal with discrimination and stigma
As a gay man you sometimes have to deal with stigmas within and outside the LGBTI community. For example about masculinity, sexuality and HIV. Find your own voice and firmness in this.
Create more intimacy
Intimacy is about opening up. To protect yourself, you may have developed patterns to keep others at a distance. Discover how to open yourself up again and create more connection.
Improve your sex life
In a world where love and lust are easily confused, you sometimes also have to deal with lack and desire. Learn to recognize and communicate your own needs, limits and desires.
The sessions were very valuable to me. Rene is empathetic, and also very sharp. The questions he asked quickly got to the heart of my question and underlying theme. The conversation gave me insights that will benefit me for the rest of my life. - Michel
Let's work together towards your goals
As a coach I support you in achieving your goals. I do this by asking questions, giving back what I notice and making suggestions on how things can be done differently.
I teach you to recognize and break through non-functional patterns. Think, for example, of avoiding difficult situations, keeping yourself small or falling back on behavior that keeps the other person at a distance.
With practical exercises I encourage you to apply the insights in your daily life. So that you feel calm and confident.
About my approach
Personal & professional
Trust is essential in coaching. To know that you are in good hands. That what we discuss stays between us and that you are dealing with a professional, certified coach who understands his profession.
Focus on your goals
You come to me because you want to change something. We set goals together, so we can check whether we are on the right track. Along the way we reflect on the steps you have taken and do some finetuning.
Good insights alone will not get you anywhere. To recognize and break through non-functional patterns, I combine reflection with practical exercises. This way you learn how to integrate the insights into your own, daily life.
Many gay men struggle alone. I provide a setting in which you learn to connect and lean on others. With humor and eye for your strength and potential, I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone.
What others say
René immediately created a safe atmosphere. With interventions aimed at head and body, he ensured that it did not remain superficial, but really gained depth.
Because Rene asks very specific questions, I get closer to my own questions and answers. In this way I learn to view situations in a different way, which leads to clarifying, new insights.
René has created a nice, open atmosphere, which invited me to show my vulnerability. Something I normally find difficult to do, but I'm glad I was able to experience it this way. Very grateful for what I've learned.
Choose your plan
Free / 30 minutes
Wondering if coaching is for you? In this consultation we will explore your question. This way I get a good picture of what you want to achieve and you can see if we're getting along.
Free, without any obligation
Pick your date & time
Online via Zoom
€ 125 / 90 minutes
Some situations require a different view or approach. Like a difficult decision or a stressful situation. In a single session, we investigate a specific question and you get tools to take the next step.
No waiting list
Pick your date & time
Online via Zoom
€ 550 / 5 x 90 minutes
Having bi-weekly or monthly sessions is a great way to set goals, unpack what's holding you back, learn new tools, put it into practice, and then reflect on the progress for some fine-tuning.
Save 75 euros
Expandable with single sessions
Online via Zoom
All prices include 21% VAT
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Frequently Asked Questions
How does 1-on-1 coaching work?
We have a 1-on-1 meeting every two weeks or monthly. The sessions last 90 minutes and take place in person or via Zoom. Your question is the starting point and I support you to achieve your goals.
Are you certified?
Yes. After my bachelor in communication I followed several studies to become a professional trainer and coach. I am a member of the Dutch Association of Professional Trainers (NOBTRA) and The Gay Coaches Alliance. In 2017 I was named Trainer of the Year.
What is the difference between therapy and coaching?
Coaching and therapy both deal with mental health and can overlap. Usually, coaching is an action and solution-oriented approach to overcome a challenge or achieve a result in your life. Therapists can diagnose and prescribe treatment, while coaches cannot.
Not sure what best suits your current situation? I can advise you in this during a free consultation. And if our sessions show that you are a better of with therapy, I will refer you to a therapist.
When will I see results?
Learning new skills requires time and commitment. In doing so, I will provide you with all the tools and resources at my disposal to help you achieve your goals. Usually after five to eight sessions you have enough tools to continue on your own.