BECOME A
COMING OUT
MENTOR
Due to fear and shame, the coming-out phase is an inner struggle for many boys and men that they go through alone. A vulnerable period when you have trouble accepting yourself or fear the reaction of others. You may also recognize this from your own experience.
With this mentoring program we can change this. As a mentor you guide someone six months before, during or after coming out. Just by being there for him, listening, supporting and encouraging him to follow his own path.
About the mentor program
What do you discuss with your participant?
Your participant determines the agenda and what you discuss together. Below you will find examples of questions that you can explore together. During the onboarding program you will be provided with tools to help you start the conversation.
Do you recognize yourself in this profile?
Are you 25+ and openly gay? Do you recognize yourself in the competences below? And do you want to support someone during their coming out? Sign up as a mentor.
What to expect
as a mentor?
Sign up as a mentor
Frequently Asked Questions
What can I expect from the program?
In principle, the program lasts six months. During that period you will have every other week an online meeting with your participant, for example via Zoom or FaceTime. Together you discuss what the other person wants to achieve and how you as a mentor can support this. For example, if, when and how your participant wants to share his sexual orientation with people around him, what it means to be openly gay and how and where you can meet other gay men.
What does it cost to participate?
Participants pay a one-time fee of 75 euros to participate in the program. This gives them access to:
- The intake interview with a certified coach
- Six months of guidance by you as a mentor
- The interactive module 'How To Be Gay'
- Monthly workshops about being gay
What if someone hasn't come out after six months?
There can be all kinds of circumstances that make it unsafe or good for someone to tell others about their sexual orientation. And that's totally fine. Whether and when someone comes out is entirely up to them. The aim of this program is to support boys and men with the help they need.
Can someone participate if they are under 18 years old?
Yes, then I need a signed agreement from his parent/guardian. A participant can email this to contact@reneluisman.nl.
What if someone still needs support after six months?
In principle, the program lasts six months. In addition to the biweekly conversations, your participant can also participate in interactive workshops. For example about discovering your own sexuality, setting boundaries or finding your ideal partner. If someone needs additional guidance after six months, we will discuss together what their question is and which guidance is best suited to this.
What if I don't click with my participant?
You will be matched based on interests, language, religion and other preferences that you and the participant can indicate in advance. If it turns out that there is no match, the coach will look for a solution. This may mean that the participant is matched with another mentor.
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