Gay ABC - terms explained

Barebacking is fucking without a condom, or bare. The term breeding is used for sex in which one ejaculates into the partner's anus. There is a risk of transmitting STDs and HIV.

This abbreviation stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission and Sadism & Masochism. You can think of dark cellars with whips and chains, but also a blindfold and a set of handcuffs.

A robustly built and hairy man, often with a mustache and/or beard.

The receiver (the one who gets fucked) is called 'bottom'. A power bottom is someone who knows what he wants and takes control of the penetration.

Some gay men don't have the family structure we wish to have or where we feel accepted and safe. The chosen family is a group of people who gather around them someone who can replace the role of an original family.

You have a psychological gender and a biological gender. A psychological gender is determined by how you feel about yourself (male, female or neither). We call this gender. A biological sex is determined by the physical characteristics you are born with. You are cisgender if both genders are equal. See also the term gender.

A term that indicates that you are clean. For example, that you do not have any STDs or have had an anal rinse.

Coming out means sharing your sexual orientation or gender identity with those around you.

The hunt for a fleeting homosexual encounter. For example in a cruising place such as a parking lot, park, sauna or darkroom.

An older (gay) man.

A darkroom is a darkened room in a nightclub, sex club, bar, sex sauna or bathhouse, where visitors can perform sexual acts. The phrase originates from the North American gay scene in the 1960s.

Someone who is not out or in a relationship and therefore wishes to remain anonymous.

Drag is when people dress up as the opposite sex. A drag queen is actually a kind of alter ego, often performed in an extremely feminine way. Think of exaggerated feminine features, fierce dresses and a heavy layer of make-up.

Anal insertion of the hand or fist.

The terms sex, sex and gender are often used interchangeably, but that is not possible in every context. Sex and gender mainly refer to physical characteristics. Gender also refers to the social, cultural and psychological characteristics associated with it. For example, that the color blue belongs to boys and the color pink to girls.

Irrational fear, hatred, intolerance or prejudice towards LGBT+ people. It can manifest itself in verbal, emotional, physical and sexual violence. Internalized homophobia means that you have unconsciously come to believe in these negative expressions, so that your self-esteem is lower or there is self-hatred.

The abbreviation LGBT stands for lesbian women, gay men, bisexuals and transgender people. The plus sign refers to other gender identities, such as intersex, queer, non-binary, and asexual.

Hairy, slender, mostly young man.