What if you could have
What if you could have
Let go of fear and shame. So you can be your authentic self.
Being part of a minority feels lonely for some gay men. You feel different or misunderstood or think you don't live up to the expectations of others. This can cause an intense feeling of shame or insecurity.
The relationship with others mirrors the relationship with yourself. Accepting yourself for who you are also creates more calmness and firmness in your relationship with others.
As a professional trainer and coach, I will help you with this. By making you aware of your qualities. By mapping and breaking through non-functional patterns together. And by teaching you through practical exercises to apply the insights in your daily life.
On Gay Men Coaching you will find articles, courses and coaching to let go of fear and shame and live an authentic life.
How can I help you?

Are you often critical of yourself? Shame can have a major impact on your life. In this online course you learn step by step how to improve your self-image and live with confident.

Do you find it hard to open up? Keeping others at a distance, may keep contacts superficial. In this men's group you learn how other gay men deal with their daily struggles.

In life we develop mechanisms to protect ourselves. Sometimes these patterns get in the way of your happiness. Coaching is a powerful way to break through non-functional patterns.

Many men struggle with the same questions. In these articles I share my insights about topics such as self-confidence, intimacy, sexuality and what it means to be a gay man.
'The course has given me more confidence. And that pays off, because conversations are often more effective. I dare to speak up. This was one of my learning goals and I have grown strongly in that.'
Rutger
About me

Frequently asked questions
Why coaching specifically for gay men?
Being part of a minority group can cause stress. Several studies show that gay men have a higher risk of mental health problems than straight men. The feeling of being different can make you feel lonely. Or you experience shame, tension and stress because you believe you cannot meet the expectations of others.
How does Gay Men Coaching help?
As a professional trainer and coach I teach people to deal with fear, shame and uncertainty so you can accept yourself and create deeper connections with others. To make this knowledge and insights accessible to many gay men, I offer a combination of online courses and coaching.
How long can I access an online course?
When you purchase an online course, you get 12 months access to your personal online learning environment. You take the course at your own pace and can practice until you have mastered the skills.
How is online coaching different from in-person coaching?
Coaching helps you achieve specific results in life. You and I don't need to be in the same room for that to work properly. That's why online coaching is not much different from face-to-face sessions – except that you can follow the session wherever and whenever you want. For example from your own sofa, where you might feel most comfortable.